Is Your Relationship dying a slow death?
Not all relationships are full of love, sunshine, rainbows and lollipops. Some relationships are plain ugly and self-destructive. Love can make you put up with a lot of things.
Relationships are a lot like health and wellbeing, sickness and disease.
They can change from loving and affectionate to loveless and lifeless. The relationships health has been infected by something. Would to get to the bottom of it and find out what it is? Or do you pretend there is nothing wrong and ignore the signs and symptoms? Avoid relationship issues risks will create bigger issues long term.
I see relationship health being infected in 3 ways:
A Relationship Virus
The relationship gets the flu once or twice a year, meaning there is conflict here and there. It’s nothing major and you will both get over it. If it goes on for too long it will affect others in the family too, but it will pass.
A Relationship Disease
The relationship develops a disease. It is debilitating and will effect on your wellbeing and lifestyle. Things will change and you won’t be doing many things together anymore. You will find that you are doing more on your own. You’re not very happy but you are managing. You know something is wrong but you aren’t going to see anyone about it. You will ignore it and hope it gets better on it’s own.
A Terminally Ill Relationship
There are the relationships that are terminally ill. This relationship started with the flu but it was left untreated and turned into a disease. No one wanted to do anything about it or face what was really happening. That’s why the disease grew terminal.
There are 2 choices to be made.
1. You can self-medicate to slow down the illness but it will not fix it. You know it’s there but it’s manageable. The question is, how much medication is needed to manage your feelings? (Self-medicating is using drugs, alcohol, food, exercise, spending money etc.)
2. You ride it out and take the natural approach. You smile on the outside and suffer on the inside.
Terminal illness in a relationship means that nothing can be done to repair the damage caused. It means you are dying on the inside and you will not do anything about it.
Don’t let this happen to your relationship. If your relationship gets the flu, jump all over that shit. Do everything you can to get through it quickly. Don’t let the rest of the family be infected. Dose yourselves up with some quality time together, affection and communication, to guard against any future virus.
If your relationship has a disease, get help now. Face it and find out what the diagnosis is. Can it be treated or repaired? What do you need to do? Do something to change it now. Don’t let it get to a point where you are medicating yourself so much that you don’t feel anything anymore.
If your relationship has a terminal illness then it’s time to make a decision. It’s time to look after you. Make a decision to take action. Have the conversation with your partner, rip the band-aid and move on. The sooner you do, the sooner you can start living again.