Is Anxiety Affecting Your Relationship?
When someone goes through a physical change such as losing weight it is easily noticed, right?
Well what if someone went through a mental change? Most people wouldn’t know because it’s not visible. When someone suffers from anxiety they can change both physically and mentally.
When you’re with the person you love you want to enjoy every moment of it. You want to be able to look back on it as a wonderful memory not a horrible disaster.
People with anxiety experience mood swings such as feeling edgy and nervous then move on to feeling and acting being angry and irritable.
This would put a strain on the relationship, causing many arguments. There are many symptoms of anxiety that can be experienced.
How To Tell When Anxiety Is Affecting Your Relationship:
- They could become snappy and short-tempered
- They may worry unnecessarily about things and blow things out of proportion
- They won’t talk about what is going on
- They may frequently question if you are angry or upset with them
- They may even become angry towards you
- They nitpick things that did not use to bother them
- Bad dreams and sleep disturbances
- They start to withdraw and don't want to go places or do things with you that they used to do
- They are highly emotional
- Your partner becomes needy, impulsive and suspicious
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Tips To Help You If Your PARTNER Has Anxiety:
- Learn about their condition
- When there is an argument don’t bring their anxiety into it – such as saying things like “just get over it”… Don’t do it, just don’t!
- Don’t take any of it personally. Learn when it's the anxiety talking
- Be patient and supportive
- Once a panic attack is in motion there is nothing you can do other than talk to them in a reassuring way until it is over and then just be there for your partner
- Remember your partner loves you and they are not doing it on purpose
- Talk to them about what is the best way to support them and what techniques you can use to help calm them down or distract them
Tips To Help if YOU Have Anxiety:
- Breathing exercises
- Some sort of physical activity e.g. Swimming, cycling, running etc.
- Be honest and open in your communication
- Learn tools and strategies to overcome anxiety
- Identify your triggers
- Use a journal and keep track of what, when, where, how it happened and what helped
- Keep up with self-care it's important to learn ways to de-stress and relax
- Get healthy and nutritious food
- Get enough sleep to recharge your body
If you’re in a relationship and you struggle with anxiety the truth is, your partner is dealing with it too.
Whatever limits anxiety is placing on you, it’s also placing it on your partner. Anxiety is a problem when it stops you doing things you really want to do.
When anxiety is placing limits on where you go, where you live and what you do in life it means you are losing control.
Losing control in terms of a relationship means you are not choosing what you want, you are waiting for some kind of sign to show you that you could go to different places, and you could do a lot of things.
Before you know it, your relationship revolves around what you can and can’t do because of your “anxiety”. It breeds resentment in the relationship too.
Anxiety causes stress on the relationship because your partner is not in control either. And that’s when the connection in your relationship can start to see cracks.
Basically, everything in life is played with the attitude “See What Happens”.
You’re waiting for something to happen in your life instead of stepping in and giving your life a direction.
Your partner ends up facing decisions to wait until you’re able or unable to do things with them that you used to enjoy or if they need to start doing things on their own. They can’t give up things because of your anxiety.
And this is how division is created in the relationship. You either work through the anxiety to be part of life experiences or you will feel like you’re missing out.
Your partner will be put in a position to choose you or the whatever the thing is thats happening life eg. a party, camping, travelling.
It’s nice when they choose you but when they don’t choose you it’s going to feel person. The over thinking kicks in and all of a sudden they don’t love you. Which is not true at all.
There is also a big difference between suffering anxiety symptoms or trauma. If you or your partner suffer Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD as it’s also known as, then it’s even more important to get help and not do it alone.
Some symptoms are normal reactions to trauma and some grow into much bigger psychological disorders if left untreated.
Conclusion
Everyone experiences anxiety. It’s a normal human emotion. The difference is other people are not living with their anxiety.
They feel it, consider their options and keep moving forward. They push through it.
If you’re stuck and need some help with anxiety then click here to book an appointment. I would love to work with you and show you how hypnosis can help you to reprogram your thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
We can help you change the symptoms of your experience and relieve the emotions you’ve been feeling.
Hypnotherapy for anxiety treatment is very effective with immediate results in altering memories and flashbacks pf traumatic events too.
